How to (respectively) move on after a divorce

A divorce can be a challenging time for anyone, regardless of the reasons behind it, and assuming that it was for the best. A decision such as this can take an toll on you, both physically, and emotionally, but things will eventually even out. Even though this is an individual journey, and everyone can take their own time to feel 'normal', here are some tips to help you navigate this difficult journey...


Acknowledge your feelings
The first step in moving on is to accept your feelings. It's normal to feel sad, angry, or confused after a divorce. Give yourself time to process these emotions and don't rush into the healing process. Acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself to grieve the loss of your marriage. This acceptance will help you begin to heal and move forward. Remember, there is 'no one size fits on' when it comes to healing.

Take care of yourself
Taking care of your physical and mental health is essential during this time. Engage in activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies. A healthy body and mind will help you cope with the emotional challenges of divorce. Make sure to eat well, get enough sleep, and seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if needed. Build a support group.

Rebuild your identity
After a divorce, you may feel like you've lost part of your identity, especially if you have had been married long. Take this opportunity to rediscover who you are outside of your marriage. Explore new interests, try new activities, and reconnect with old friends. This process will help you find new passions and build a sense of self that is independent of your former relationship.

Set new goals
Setting new goals can give you a sense of purpose and direction. Think about what you want to achieve in the next few months or years. This could be anything from learning a new skill, starting a new career, or traveling. Having goals will help you focus on the future and look forward to positive changes in your life.

Embrace a new chapter
Finally, embrace the idea that this is a new chapter in your life. It's okay to look back and remember the good times, but focus on the possibilities that lie ahead. Celebrate your independence and the freedom to make choices that are right for you. Remember, moving on doesn't mean forgetting the past, but it means creating a brighter future for yourself.


Remember that it is okay to not to be okay, and everyone's timeline is different. While some might heal in months, others can take years to get over a divorce. Make sure you navigate the journey at your own pace, and keep repeating that this too, shall pass one day.